Analyze cultural research-based models that help explain organizational culture.

Discussion 1 – Cultural Research – Discuss in 100-150 words with In text citations:

Analyze cultural research-based models that help explain organizational culture.

Discussion 2 – Application of Models – Discuss in 100 – 150 words with intext Citations.

Apply models of personality, individual differences, and gender to the work environment.

Discussion 3 – Gender Stereotypes: – Discuss in 100 – 150 words with intext Citations.

Research conducted by William and Best (1982) is reviewed in Ch. 6 of Culture and Psychology. How do you understand their results related to gender stereotypes? What are the advantages and disadvantages of these adjectives in relation to the workforce?

Discussion 4 – Workplace – Discuss in 100 – 150 words with intext Citations.

 

Go to the University Library and use the search terms attributional styles and workplace. Narrow your search to scholarly articles, and choose one of the articles that populates. Do you think the article results could be applicable at your workplace for enhancing employee effectiveness? Why or why not?

Defend or challenge one of the following statements

Question 1

Defend or challenge one of the following statements:

a.  All employers (regardless of their size or federal contractor/subcontractor status) should be required to implement and keep up-to-date affirmative action plans;

or

b.  All employers (regardless of their size or federal contractor/subcontractor status) should be required to utilize E-Verify to verify the employment eligibility of all new hires and current employees.

For either “a” or “b” above, bring in additional information from at least two reputable sources (library and/or Web-based).

Question 2

Please answer the questions below. Use question and answer (Q&A) format for your response; in other words, include the original question along with your answer in the reply. Within your post, support your responses with information from at least two reputable sources (library and/or web-based) and provide the full citation at the end. Use APA format for your references. Bring in your own personal experiences, if applicable.

  1. What is OSHA’s impact on safety in U.S. workplaces?
  2. What are the disadvantages of the OSHA law?
  3. What would be the consequences if OSHA were repealed?
  4. What recommendations do you have to improve OSHA law or its regulations?

Question 3

Please answer the questions below. Use question and answer (Q&A) format for your response; in other words, include the original question along with your answer in the reply. Within your post, support your responses with information from at least two reputable sources (library and/or web-based) and provide the full citation at the end. Use APA format for your references. Bring in your own personal experiences, if applicable.

  1. Assume that senior management has just learned that there is a union organizing effort going on. This is the second time in four years that the hourly employees have tried to unionize. As an HR manager in this union-free company with 500 plant (hourly) employees located in a large industrial city, what actions would you recommend to senior management to remain union-free? Why?
  2. Assume there has been a discussion about using an employee participation program (EPP) in the workplace. What is your opinion of using an EPP? Why?
  3. What are the advantages of an EPP?
  4. What are the disadvantages of an EPP?

Be sure to consider anti-union prohibitions under the National Labor Relations Act and other pertinent legislation.

Discuss all possible meanings of the title of the essay the lord of creation.

1.Discuss all possible meanings of the title of the essay the lord of creation.

  1. what are the two especial faculties of mankind? name ,define,and briefly discuss them. In other words, what two things distinguish us from animals?

3.Discuss how the human imagination is a two edged sword, both a blessing and a cursel

4.Read the first two sentences of the fifth paragraph. Make an astute comment about it.

5.Illustrate the paradox of morality and cruelty as presented by the author. Make sure you define paradox.

Provide some examples

  1. does the author think that man’s mind if just a more sophisticated or developed animal mind? give two examples from the text to support your answer ?
  2. one of the subheadings in the essay the great projecctor. What does the author mean by this?  explain in detail.

8.Define and distinguish a symbol from a sign.

9.Does the author think that animals can reason? Give two examples from the text to support your answer.

10.why is language the highest and most amazing achievement of the humankind? give at least four reasons

 

The Paradox of Reason and Folly

Of all born creatures, man is the only one that cannot live by bread alone.  He lives as much by symbols as by sense report, in a realm compounded of tangible things and virtual images, of actual events and ominous portents, always between fact and fiction.  For he sees not only actualities but meanings.  He has, indeed, all the impulses and interests of animal nature; he eats, sleeps, mates, seeks comfort and safety, flees pain, falls sick and dies, just as cats and bears and fishes and butterflies do.  But he has something more in his repertoire, too—he has laws and religions, theories and dogmas, because he lives not only through sense but through symbols.  That is the special asset of his mind, which makes him the master of earth and all its progeny.

By the agency of symbols—marks, words, mental images, and icons of all sorts—he can hold his ideas for contemplation long after their original causes  have passed away.  Therefore, he can think of things that are not presented or even suggested by his actual environment.  By associating symbols in his mind, he combines things and events that were never together in the real world.  This gives him the power we call imagination.  Further, he can symbolize only part of an idea and let the rest go out of his consciousness; this gives  him the faculty that has been his pride throughout the ages—the power of abstraction.  The combined effect of these two powers is inestimable.  They are the roots of his supreme talent, the gift of reason.

In the war of each against all, which is the course of nature, man has an unfair advantage over his animal brethren; for he can see what is not yet there to be seen, know events that happened before his birth, and take possession of more than he actually eats; he can kill at a distance; and by rational design he can enslave other creatures to live and act for him instead of for themselves.

Yet this mastermind has strange aberrations.  For in the whole animal kingdom there is no such unreason, no such folly and impracticality as man displays.  He alone is hounded by imaginary fears, beset by ghosts and devils, frightened by mere images of things.  No other creature wastes time in unprofitable ritual or builds nests for dead specimens of its race.  Animals are always realists.  They have intelligence in varying degrees—chickens are stupid, elephants are said to be very clever—but, bright or foolish, animals react only to reality.  They may be fooled by appearance, by pictures or reflections, but once they know them as such, they promptly lose interest.  Distance and darkness and silence are not fearful to them, filled with voices or forms, or invisible presences.  Sheep in the pasture do not seem to fear phantom sheep beyond the fence, and mice don’t look for mice goblins in the clock, birds do not worship a divine thunderbird.

But oddly enough, men do.  They think of all these things and guard against them, worshiping animals and monsters even before they conceive of divinities in their own image.  Men are essentially unrealistic.  With all their extraordinary intelligence, they alone go in for  patently impractical actions—magic and exorcisms and holocausts—rites that have no connection with common-sense methods of self-preservation, such as a highly intelligent animal might use.  In fact, the rites and sacrifices by which primitive man claims to control nature are sometimes fatal to the performers.  Indian puberty rites are almost always intensely painful, and African natives have sometimes died during initiations into honorary societies.

We usually assume that very primitive tribes of men are closer to animal estate than highly civilized races; but in respect of practical attitudes, this is not true.  The more primitive man’s mind, the more fantastic it seems to be; only with high intellectual disciplines do we gradually approach the realistic outlook of intelligent animals.

Yet this human mind, so beclouded by phantoms and superstitions, is probably the only mind on earth that can reach out to an awareness of things beyond its practical environment and can also conceive of such notions as truth, beauty, justice, majesty, space and time and creation.

 

The Paradox of Morality and Cruelty

There is another paradox in man’s relationship with other creatures: namely, that those very qualities he calls animality—”brutal,” “bestial,” “inhuman”—are peculiarly his own.  No other animal is so deliberately cruel as man.  No other creature intentionally imprisons its own kind, or invents special instruments of  torture such as racks and thumbscrews for the sole purpose of punishment.  No other animal keeps his own brethren in slavery; so far as we know, the lower animals do not commit anything like the acts of pure sadism that figure rather largely in our newspapers.  There is no torment, spite, or cruelty for its own sake among beasts, as there is among men.  A cat plays with its prey, but does not conquer and torture smaller cats.  But man, who knows good and evil, is cruel for cruelty’s sake; he who has a moral law is more brutal than the brutes, who have none; he alone inflicts suffering on his fellows with malice aforethought.

 

The Great Projector

The answer is, I think, that man’s mind is not a direct evolution from the beast’s mind, but is a unique variant and therefore has had a meteoric and startling career very different from any other animal history.  The trait that sets human mentality apart from every other is its preoccupation with symbols, with images that mean things, rather than with things themselves.  This trait may have been a mere sport of nature once upon a time.  Certain creatures do develop traits and interests that seem biologically unimportant.  Pack rats, for instance, and some birds of the crow family take a capacious pleasure in bright objects and carry away such things for which they have, presumably, no earthly use.  Perhaps man’s tendency to see certain forms as images, to hear certain sounds not only as signals but as expressive tones, and to be excited by sunset colors or starlight, was originally just a peculiar sensitivity in a rather highly developed  brain.  But whatever its cause, the ultimate destiny of this trait was momentous, for all human activity is based on the appreciation and use of symbols.  Language, religion, mathematics, all learning, science and superstition, even right and wrong, are products of symbolic expression rather than direct experience.  Our commonest words, such as “house” and “red” and “walking,” are symbols; the pyramids of Egypt and the mysterious circle of Stonehenge are symbols; so are dominions and empires and astronomical universes.  We live in a mind-made world, where the things of prime importance are images or worlds that embody ideas and feelings and attitudes.

The animal mind is like a telephone exchange; it receives stimuli from outside through the sense organs and sends the appropriate responses through the nerves that govern muscles, glands, and other parts of the body.  The organism is constantly interacting with its surroundings, receiving messages reacting on the new state of affairs that the messages signify.

But the human mind is not a simply transmitter like a telephone exchange.  It is more like a great projector; for instead of merely mediating between an event in the outer world and a creature’s responsive action, it transforms or, if you will, distorts the event into an image to be looked at, retained, and contemplated.  For the images of things that we remember are not exact and faithful transcriptions even of our actual sense impressions.  They are made as much by what we think as by what we see.  It is a well-known fact that if you ask several people the size of the moon’s disk as they look at it, their estimates will vary from the area of a dime to that of a barrel top.  Like a magic lantern, the mind projects its ideas of things on the screen of what we call “memory”; but like all projections, these ideas are transformations of actual things.  They are, if fact, symbols of reality, not pieces of it.

 

Signs and Symbols

A symbol is not the same thing as a sign; that is a fact that psychologists and philosophers often overlook.  All intelligent animals use signs; so do we.  To them as well as to us sounds and smells and motions are signs of food, danger, the presence of other beings, or of rain or storm.  Furthermore, some animals not only attend to signs but produce them for the benefit of others.  Dogs bark at the door to be let in; rabbits thump to call each other; the cooing of doves and the growl of a wolf defending his kill are unequivocal signs of feelings and intentions to be reckoned with by other creatures.

We use signs just as animals do, though with considerably more elaboration.  We stop at red lights and go on green; we answer calls and bells, watch the sky for coming storms, read trouble or promise or anger in each other’s eyes.  That is animal intelligence raised to the human level.  Those of us who are dog lovers can probably all tell wonderful stories of how high or dogs have sometimes risen in the scale of clever sign interpretation and sign using.

A sign is anything that announces the existence or the imminence of some event, the presence of a thing or a person, or a change in a state of affairs.  There are signs of the weather, signs of danger, signs of future good or evil, signs of what the past has been.  In every case a sign is closely bound up with something to be noted or expected in experience.  It is always a part of the situation to which it refers, though the reference may be remote in space and time.  In so far as we are led to note or expect the signified event we are making correct use of a sign.  This is the essence of rational behavior, which animals show in varying degrees.  It is entirely realistic, being closely bound up with the actual objective course of history—learned by experience, and cashed in or voided by further experience.

If man had kept to the straight and narrow path of sign using, he would be like the other animals, though perhaps a little brighter.  He would not talk, but grunt and gesticulate and point.  He would make his wishes known, give warnings, perhaps develop a social system like that of bees and ants, with such a wonderful efficiency of communal enterprise that all men would have plenty to eat, warm apartments—all exactly alike and perfectly convenient—to live in, and everybody could and would sit in the sun or by the fir, as the climate demanded, not talking but just basking, with every want satisfied, most of his life.  The young would romp and make love, the old sleep, the middle-aged would do the routine work almost unconsciously and eat a great deal.  But that would be the life of a social, superintelligent, purely sign-using animal.

To us who are human, it does not sound very glorious.  We want to go places and do things, own all sorts of gadgets that we do not absolutely need, and when we sit downto take it easy we want to talk. Rights and property, social position, special talents and virtues, and above all our ideas, are what we live for.  We have gone off on a tangent that takes us far away from the mere biological cycle that animal generations accomplish; and that is because we can use not only signs but symbols.

A symbol differs from a sign in that it does not announce the presence of the object, the being, condition, or whatnot, which is its meaning, but merely brings this thing to mind.  It is not a mere “substitute sign” to which we react as though it were the object itself.  The fact is that our reaction to hearing a person’s name is quite different from our reaction to the person himself.  There are certain rare cases where a symbol stands directly for its meaning: in religious experience, for instance, the Host is not only a symbol but a Presence.  But symbols in the ordinary sense are not mystic.  They are the same sort of thing that ordinary signs are; only they do not call our attention to something necessarily present or to be physically dealt with—they call up merely a conception of the thing they “mean.”

The difference between a sign and a symbol is, in brief, that a sign causes us to think or act in face of the thing signified, whereas a symbol causes us to think about the thing symbolized.  Therein lies the great importance of symbolism human life, its power to make this life so different from any other animal biography that generations of men have found it incredible to suppose that they were of purely zoological origin.  A sign is always embedded in reality, in a present that emerges from the actual past and stretches to the future: but a symbol may be divorced from reality altogether.  It may refer to what is not the case, to a mere idea, a figment, a dream.  It serves, therefore, to liberate thought from the immediate stimuli of a physically present world; and that liberation marks the essential difference between human and nonhuman mentality.  Animals think, but they think of and at things; men think primarily about things.  Words, pictures, and memory images are symbols may be combined and varied in a thousand ways.  The result is a symbolic structure whose meaning is a complex of all their respective meanings, and this kaleidoscope of ideas is the typical product of the human brain that we call the “stream of thought.”

 

The Need of Symbolic Expression

The process of transforming all direct experience into imagery or into that supreme mode of symbolic expression, language, has so completely taken possession of the human mind that it is not only a special talent but a dominant, organic need.  All our sense impressions leave their traces in our memory not only as signs disposing our practical reactions in the future but also as symbols, images representing our ideas of things; and the tendency to manipulate ideas, to combine and abstract, mix and extend them by playing with symbols, is man’s outstanding characteristic.  It seems to be what his brain most naturally and spontaneously does.  Therefore his primitive mental function is not judging reality, but dreaming his desires.

Dreaming is apparently a basic function of human brains, for it is free and unexhausting like our metabolism, heartbeat, and breath.  It is easier to dream than not to dream, as it is easier to breathe than to refrain from breathing.  The symbolic character of dreams is fairly well established.  Symbol mongering, on this ineffectual, uncritical level, seems to be instinctive, the fulfillment of an elementary need rather than the purposeful exercise of a high and difficult talent.

The special power of man’s mind rests on the evolution of this special activity, not on any transcendently high development of animal intelligence.  We are not immeasurably higher than other animals; we are different.  We have a biological need and with it a biological gift that they do not share.

Because man has not only the ability but the constant need of conceiving what has happened to him, what surrounds him, what is demanded of him—in short, of symbolizing nature, himself, and his hopes and fears—he has a constant and crying need of expression.  What he cannot express, he cannot conceive; what he cannot conceive is chaos, and fills him with terror.

If we bear in mind this all-important craving for expression we get a new picture of man’s behavior; for from this trait spring his powers and his weaknesses.  The process of symbolic transformation that all our experiences undergo is nothing more nor less than the process of conception, which underlies the human faculties of abstraction and imagination.

When we are faced with a strange or difficult situation, we cannot react directly, as other creatures do, with flight, aggression, or any such simple instinctive pattern.  Our whole reaction depends on how we manage to conceive the situation—whether we cast it in a definite dramatic form, whether we see it as a disaster, a challenge, a fulfillment of doom, or a fiat of the Divine Will.  In words or dreamlike images, in artistic or religious or even in cynical form, we must construe the events of life.  There is great virtue in the figure of speech, “I can make nothing of it,” to express a failure to understand something.  Thought and memory are processes of making the thought content and the memory image; the pattern of our ideas is given by the symbols through which we express them.  And in the course of manipulating those symbols we inevitably distort the original experience, as we abstract certain features of it, embroider and reinforce those features with other ideas, until the conception we project on the screen of memory is quite different from anything in our real history.

Conception is a necessary and elementary process; what we do with our conceptions is another story.  That is the entire history of human culture—of intelligence and morality, folly and superstition, ritual, language, and the arts—all the phenomena that set man apart from, and above, the rest of the animal kingdom.  As the religious mind has to make all human history a drama of sin and salvation in order to define its own moral attitudes, so a scientist wrestles with the mere presentation of “the facts” before he can reason about them.  The process of envisaging facts, values, hopes, and fears underlies our whole behavior pattern; and this process is reflected in the evolution of an extraordinary phenomenon found always, and only, in human societies—the phenomenon of language.

 

The Language Line

Language is the highest and most amazing achievement of the symbolistic human mind.  The power it bestows is almost inestimable, for without it anything properly called “thought” is impossible.  The birth of language is the dawn of humanity.  The line between man and beast—between the highest ape and the lowest savage—is the language line. Whether the primitive Neanderthal man was anthropoid or human depends less on his cranial capacity, his upright posture, or even his use of tools and fire, than on one issue we shall probably never be able to settle—whether or not he spoke.

In all physical traits and practical responses, such as skills and visual judgments, we can find a certain continuity between animal and human mentality.  Sign using is an ever evolving, ever improving function throughout the whole animal kingdom, from the lowly worm that shrinks into his hole at the sound of an approaching foot, to the dog obeying his master’s command, and even to the learned scientist who watches the movements of an index needle.

This continuity of the sign-using talent has led psychologists to the belief that language is evolved from the vocal expressions, grunts and coos and cries, whereby animals vent their feelings or signal their fellows; that man has elaborated this sort of communion to the point where it makes a perfect exchange of ideas possible.

I do not believe that this doctrine of the origin of language is correct.  The essence of language is symbolic, not signific: we use it first and most vitally to formulate and hold ideas in our own minds. Conception, not social control, is its first and foremost benefit.

Watch a young child that is just learning to speak play with a toy; he says the name of the object, e.g.: “Horsey! horsey! horsey!” over and over again, looks at the object, moves it, always saying the name to himself or to the world at large.  It is quite a time before he talks to anyone in particular; he talks first of all to himself.  This is his way of forming and fixing the conception of the object in his mind, and around this conception all his knowledge of it grows.  Names are the essence of language; for the name is what abstracts the conception of the horse from the horse itself, and lets the mere idea recur at the speaking of the name.  This permits the conception gathered from one horse experience to be exemplified again by another instance of a horse, so that the notion embodied in the name is a general notion.

To this end, the baby uses a word long before he asks for the object; when he wants his horsey he is likely to cry and fret, because he is reacting to an actual environment, not forming ideas. He uses the animal language of signs for his wants; talking is still a purely symbolic process—its practical value has not really impressed him yet.

Language need not be vocal; it may be purely visual, like written language, or even tactual, like the deaf-mute system of speech; but it must be denotative.  The sounds, intended or unintended, whereby animals communicate do not constitute a language, because they are signs, not names.  They never fall into an organic pattern, a meaningful syntax of even the most rudimentary sort, as all language seems to do with a sort of driving necessity.  That is because signs refer to actual situations, in which things have obvious relations to each other that require only to be noted; but symbols refer to ideas, which are not physically there for inspection, so their connections and features have to be represented.  This gives all true language a natural tendency toward growth and development, which seems almost like a life of its own.  Languages are not invented; they grow with our need for expression.

In contrast, animal “speech” never has a structure.  It is merely an emotional response.  Apes may greet their ration of yams with a shout of “‘Nga” But they do not ‘‘Nga’’ between meals.  If they could talk about their yams instead of just saluting them, they would be the most primitive men instead of the most anthropoid of beasts.  They would have ideas, and tell each other things true or false, rational or irrational; they would make plans and invent laws and sing their own praises, as men do.

List and explain four current sociocultural trends in the U.S. that are transforming North America and the world.

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1. List and explain four current sociocultural trends in the U.S. that are transforming North America and the world. Your response should be at least 200 words in length. You are required to use at least your textbook as source material for your response. All sources used, including the textbook, must be referenced; paraphrased and quoted material must have accompanying citations.

 

 

2. In what ways may a corporation’s structure and culture be internal strengths or weaknesses? Look at your organization, and analyze its structural and cultural strengths and weaknesses. How can the weaknesses be improved? Your response should be at least 200 words in length. You are required to use at least your textbook as source material for your response. All sources used, including the textbook, must be referenced; paraphrased and quoted material must have accompanying citations.

 

 

Part 2

 

EFAS table Using the information gathered from your SWOT analysis conducted in Unit II, create an EFAS table for the company you researched. Use Microsoft Word to create your table. It should have five columns. The first column heading should be entitled External Factors, the second column should be titled Weight, the third column should be titled Rating, the fourth column should be titled Weighted Score, and the fifth column should be titled Comments. (Refer to page 121 in your textbook for an example.)

1. In the External Factors column, list at least six opportunities you saw in the company you researched. Underneath the opportunities, list at least six threats you saw in the company you researched.

2. In the Weight column, assign an importance factor to each of these issues from 0.0-1.0 (1.0 is most important; 0.0 is least important). These ratings are based on the probable impact on a particular company’s current strategic position. The higher the weight, the more important the factor to the current and future success of the company. You may not be privy to the exact information for this company, so in some cases you will need to use your best judgment. (You will justify your weighting in column five.)

3. In the Rating column, assign a rating factor from 5.0-1.0 (5.0 is outstanding; 1.0 is poor). These ratings are based on the company’s response to that particular factor. It is a judgment call on how the company is currently dealing with each specific factor. Once again, you may need to make an estimate in this area if you are not privy to all of the information. (You will justify your weighting in column five.)

4. In the Weighted Score column, multiply the weight from column two by the rating in column three to get the factor’s weighted score. 5. In the Comments column, explain why a particular factor was selected and how its weight and rating were estimated. 6. At the bottom of column four, add the weighted scores for the external factors. Is the company doing better or worse than others in the same industry? Complete this answer underneath your table. Format your assignment using APA Style. Use your own words, and include citations and references as needed to avoid plagiarism.

 

U.S.-Cuban Trade: When does a Cold War Strategy Become a Cold War Relic?”

Analyze the Case Study in Chapter 6 of the textbook, pp. 252-256, “U.S.-Cuban Trade: When does a Cold War Strategy Become a Cold War Relic?” Answer the first four questions, 6-3 through 6-6, at the end of the case.

Your paper should be at least three pages in length.

Make sure each question is used as a heading (as required by APA style guidelines) and answered in the order presented.

All sources used, including the textbook, must be referenced, and quoted or paraphrased material must have accompanying in-text citations.

Title and reference pages do not count towards the minimum word count requirement. Information about accessing the Blackboard Grading Rubric for this assignment is provided below.

Recall a time when you experienced an unethical situation at a work place. What events led up to this situation? Do you think it could have been avoided? Did the company take the right action?

Recall a time when you experienced an unethical situation at a work place. What events led up to this situation? Do you think it could have been avoided? Did the company take the right action?

 

MKT100

Find a recent article related to loyalty programs (either discussing a particular company or the concept in general). Paraphrase the article and share your opinions with the class; discuss the article with your peers in a written post. Be sure to give us your take on the effectiveness or ineffectiveness of consumer loyalty programs and whether or not they are worthwhile in terms of profitability. Include a link to your chosen article for additional reading.

Describe the walking wounded. Who are they?

Walking Wounded: Young ACOA

What do these people have in common? Formerpresident Ronald Reagan. ex-Dallas CowboyHollywood Henderson. Writer Lorian Hemingway,granddaughter of Ernest Hemingway. ComedianLouie Anderson. Actress Susan Sullivan Formerhockey star Derek Sanderson. And performerSuzanne Somers.
Hello. I’m Robin Young, and like everyone I justnamed, I grew up in an alcoholic home. Now Iknow some of you may remember me as a co-host of Evening Magazine, a formercorrespondent for NBC News, but now I also referto myself as something called an adult child of analcoholic.
Now I know that doesn’t make sense at first. Adultchild. What does that mean? But please listen,because tonight’s program may make somepeople’s lives make sense, some for the first time.
We’re going to be talking about adults confrontingthe fact that the alcoholism they grew up with wasnot only very painful when they were children, buthas had a profound effect on them as adults.
And this alcoholism isn’t always easy to see. I mean, sure, there’s the violent drunk that you seeon television, but we’re also talking about the silenthomes where kids grew up in constant fear thatthere would be violence, that Mom would fallasleep drunk with a cigarette or Dad have a caraccident driving home. No one ever talked aboutit, and these kids always thought it was their fault.
I know alcoholism wasn’t even mentioned in myhome until my dad died from it three years ago.And even then it was hard for me to talk about,until I heard other people’s voices.
He was a really sort of Jekyll/Hyde personality.When he wasn’t drinking he was charming andbright and insightful. And when he was drinking hewas angry.
I believe my father’s alcoholic. And I love himdearly and I can’t get him sober. And he thinkshe’s just a boozer.
My childhood was normal to me. Craziness,violence, hitting, screaming, crying, staying up allnight. All those things were just our normal life.
Confusion is why I couldn’t figure things out. Whycan’t I figure out the confusion? So I wasconfused about the confusion.
I used to think that a bolt of lightning was going tocome and crash down on me if I talked about it.
Once it was easy for people to see me on theoutside and think that things were going OK. Thelast year things just went dramatically downhill.
I thought if I was a better kid that maybe hewouldn’t drink.
Now I know, because I was one once, that thereare some cynics out there. Someone recentlywrote that it feels as if we’re about to have supportgroups for third cousins of excessive sherrydrinkers. How important is this?
Well, there are 28 million Americans who have atleast one alcoholic parent. That’s one out of eight.And most of the people that we’re talking abouthave worked very hard at looking really good sono one knows there’s a problem until their livesjust fall apart and marriages break up or they’reprofoundly depressed and they don’t know why.
We get a lot of mixed signals about alcohol in thiscountry, so this program is also importantbecause it may help you figure out if some of theproblems you’re dealing with have to deal withgrowing up in an alcoholic home. If so, thisprogram will tell you that you are not alone. And itwill tell you how to get help if you decide to stopkeeping the family secret.
I never saw my father falling down drunk. But Ionly saw him, when I was really little, that half hourbetween him coming home from work andbedtime. And of course that coincided with thecocktail hour, so–
Growing up with excessive social drinking is a lotlike growing up in those amusement park house ofmirrors. Everything’s just a little distorted andthings change and especially as a little kid, youdon’t know why.
But there’s a broad spectrum of alcoholic homesand at the other end is the violent one.
When you see Suzanne Somers perform in LasVegas, it’s hard to believe she’s had any problemsother than keeping that hat on. But SuzanneSomers was not always the fun-loving performerthat she appears to be today. She kept up theimage of a ditzy blonde on the hit sitcom Three’sCompany. People loved her, and few would know,until she wrote her autobiography, KeepingSecrets, the dark childhood she had as theyoungest daughter of a violent and verballyabusive father.
It didn’t enter my mind that it was a sad childhood.It just entered my mind that it was something that Ishouldn’t let other people know about.
But still, I was shocked at the events in yourchildhood. Dishes flying and people fighting, kidshitting parents, parents hitting kids, and the yelling.It was dark.
All those nights of hiding in the closet to escapethe reality of hearing the yelling and the crazinessand worrying that someone was going to be killedin the next room, what a terrible thing to live with.For a child to worry each night that one or theother members or yourself might get killed intonight’s fight.
There were words that your father used againstyou that I didn’t even know existed in the ’50s andthe ’60s. These were nasty things you just don’tsay.
Big O and nothing. You’re nothing. And I wouldhear that over and over. You hear you’re nothingand worthless and useless, and then the rest ofthe language that I can’t say here, which is part ofan alcoholic home–
I couldn’t believe it. Let’s try to trace this. How didyour father’s put-downs of you when you wereyoung affect you when you were older. Did youactually hear his voice telling you you’re nothing,you’re no good?
It’s not that I heard the voice. It was me. I wasnothing. I was worthless. I became what he said Iwas. So I didn’t have to hear his voice. I knew thatI was useless and worthless. I knew that.
Her siblings had the same low opinion ofthemselves. Maureen, Danny, and Michael allbecame alcoholics. Suzanne was determined notto drink, but what she didn’t know was that shehad taken on other characteristics of an alcoholic.She lied, even saying her dad was dead.
I didn’t want to be the daughter of the drunkanymore. You get a mixed message of lies. You’retaught, on the one hand, my mother is a good IrishCatholic, church-going woman, teach me neverlie. And yet I’d hear her on the phone saying, Mr.Mahoney can’t come to work today because he’ssick. And I’d look at him and I’d think he’s not sick.He’s drunk. He’s passed out.
And so I got the message, OK, you’re notsupposed to lie, but there are some lies that areOK. So lying became a way for me to protect thereality of who I thought I was.
One lie led to another. The crisis became worse.She had to marry at the age of 18, had a baby,and shortly after that she had an affair that costher her marriage. Ill-equipped to take care of heryoung son, she took whatever modeling job shecould get, even posing nude for this Newsweekcover. And the lies continued.
The crisis was all I knew. And when I left thehouse, the environment, the crazy environment,to go have a normal life, I didn’t know what normalwas. So I just created the patterns of mychildhood in my own life. So I created my owncrisis. So therefore I wrote bad checks for aperiod of time
You were arrested.
I was arrested, yes. Yes. It was part of the crisis,though. Because what our parents do to us, goodor bad, affects who we will be as adults. And thisis how it manifested in me.
Today, as honorary chairperson of the NationalAssociation of Children of Alcoholics, SuzanneSomers speaks with conviction and hope. Shetells of her entire family’s recovery. Brothers,sister, and father, all sober for several years. Andher mom is now in a support group. But it’s onlyrecently that Suzanne got from her father the onlything she ever really wanted.
Nonetheless, he’s been sober for 11 years andI’ve been waiting for something from him, for himto recognize what his disease did to me and tomake amends. And two days ago I got a letterfrom my dad that said that he was sorry, in themost– It’s just a beautiful letter.
It makes me emotional because it ends it. And Ithink every child of an alcoholic would love tohave the opportunity to hear from the parent, I’m sorry. And so many children of alcoholics’ parentsdie before they have the chance to say that
I think that I first understood that my father was analcoholic when he died. What happened was theyear before, he had become ill and the doctor saidto me, well, you know he’s an alcoholic. I wasfurious. I called my sister and I said this doctor issaying Dad’s an alcoholic.
And she said, no kidding, Sherlock. She’d beentrying to tell me. And of course I couldn’t hearwhat I didn’t want to hear. One of my brothers andI, we went to his bedside and we pleaded with him to please get help.
And the miracle did occur. He decided to go intorecovery and he did become sober, a totallydifferent man. And we were all adjusting to thischange when several months later, his liver justfailed. And on Christmas Eve he died.
And in many ways the worst things hadhappened. Here I was convinced that I had saveda parent, which I guess maybe Id’ trying to do allalong, but come to find out that of course I hadn’t.And it would be a while before I realized that I hadto try to save myself.
Well, after my dad died I set out in time-honoredfamily tradition, working hard to avoid dealing withit. I did so many alcohol-related stories for NBCthat a friend said to me, Robin, I’ve been electedto tell you, alcoholism is not a beat. I think since I’dfailed in saving my dad, I was going to try to saveeverybody else.
And I was also seeking out soulmates, like thebrother and sister that I met here in Boston. Thenightmare of every child of an alcoholic had cometrue for them. She told me that she was riding thetrain and she looked up and there in the seatacross from her was her dad. A bum.
The most incredible thing happened after thatstory aired. My mother had been watching it withmy sister and she told her that our grandfather,my father’s father, had in fact been a bum on thestreets. Knock me over with a feather. Thatwonderful old man who had moved into our homewhen I was really young had apparently neverrecovered from the Depression. And my fatherhad been forced to take him in.
And suddenly I just was aware of all the pain ofseeing this wonderful old man, but rememberingnow that I could see his shame. And also realizingthe tension that existed between my father and hisfather, the fact that he had to be confronted everyday with that failure. I was overwhelmed by notonly remembering the pain, but realizing that wehad never, ever, talked about it.
Around this time, I noticed a book that hadbecome a publishing phenomenon, a bestseller byword of mouth. And I did a story on the author,psychologist Janet Woititz. Today she continuesto lecture on the link between the alcoholic and thechild.
You see, the alcoholic, for example, is dependent.The people in that system who get caught up inthat cycle are what we call co-dependent. As co-dependent, they lose a sense of themselves andtheir own value and they devote themselves totrying to fix the alcoholic. If we’re looking at theadult child of the alcoholic, we look at somethingthat’s more complicated, because thesebehaviors become a part of what they internalizeas who they are. And so it’s more serious.
There’s no time for a child’s feelings in analcoholic home, and support groups like this one,run by Janet, try to make up for that. Thousandsof groups across the country provide a safe placefor old wounds to finally be healed. When I wasgrowing up I guess I was always waiting for theshoe to fall, because my father was a late-stagealcoholic when I was young.
And whenever there was a family gathering orwhenever there was a holiday, it was how long isthis day going to be OK? When is the first incidentgoing to happen? How much time do I have toplay?
It’s relationship problems that usually bring peoplefor help. Issues of control, trust, intimacy, thesestir up trouble as the child of an alcoholic tries toget close to another person.
A real specific wall is not being able to have thekind of relationship that they want and not knowingwhat it is that goes wrong. Not knowing why theymake the choices that they do, not knowing whythey get stuck in the ways that they do, notknowing how to fix it when they have anargument, not knowing– One of the walls has todo with their own children, not knowing how to be a parent.
The problem is children never forget thecontradictory messages from their childhood.
You can’t do anything right, I need you. You growup in a situation where no matter what you do itisn’t good enough. So that’s who you seek. Soyou’re very drawn to people who are warm andloving one day and rejecting the next. Those arethe ones who turn you on.
In other words, while the ACOA is going throughtheir problems, the people involved with them–
May not have any idea at all what hit them. Andthose that get involved are generally looking andbegging for space. They end up saying, I love youbut please go away, which is the set up. Andthat’s how they play out their childhood.
In fact, Janet Woititz says that adult children ofalcoholics don’t take lovers, they take hostages.But the real problem is that the opposite is alsotrue. That same person who will hold on too tight in a relationship will run as fast they can in theother direction if their partner actually responds tothem. It can make for a horrible emotional tug ofwar.
And there are some other characteristics thatJanet lists in her book, so why don’t we take asecond and see if any of these are familiar to you.Do you find yourself fiercely loyal to employerswho just don’t deserve that loyalty? Do you craveapproval but can’t stand compliments? Are yousuper responsible or super irresponsible? Do youfind yourself wondering just what is normal,anyway? And are you more comfortable readingother people’s minds than your own?
And sometimes it becomes masked. They use food to compensate. They might use alcohol ordrugs to compensate. They may become verycompulsive in their exercising. They may be verycompulsive in money spending and that maycreate a crisis enough for them to saysomething’s going on. But they don’t say, gee, Iwas raised in an alcoholic home, I need morehelp.
Claudia Black is a co-founder of this ACOAmovement, so is Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse.And like many other leaders, they’re also childrenof alcoholics.
We have a tendency to hold back, to share less.Our whole life has been, don’t talk, don’t trust,don’t feel.
Don’t talk, don’t trust, don’t feel. That is the battlecry of children of alcoholics, but some peoplewant to change that. And in fact, what was an ideaof a few years ago has become a movement. This is the fifth annual National Children of Alcoholicsconvention in San Diego.
Hundreds of professionals and adults who grewup in alcoholic homes have come from all over theUnited States to try to get some understanding ofthe past. What they learn is that many painfulchildhood memories begin at this age.
How are kids hurt when there is a mom or a dadwho drinks too much or uses too many drugs?What are some of the problems that kids have?Yes, Jessica.
You can get really ignored.
Kids get ignored.
What does that mean?
What does that mean? That’s a good question.What do we mean when we say kids get ignored?What do you mean?
They don’t get any attention paid to them.
Mom and Dad don’t spend enough time with them.What were you going to say, Connie?
Sometimes they get hurt. The parents could hitthem or abuse them.
Abuse them. Hit them or abuse them in someway.
Jerry Moe, author and workshop leader, knowsthat most children of alcoholics already believe thealcoholism is their fault.
Children have an incredible sense that it’s theirfault. Part of it is just developmentally, young kidssee themselves as being the hub of the universe.Everything revolves around them.
Kids who desperately want their parents to stopdrinking will do anything to make them stop.
I took bottles of vodka, dumped it out, and puttonic water in there or bubbly water in there.
So is there anything that we can do?
Nothing.
In this exercise a child tries to get Mom to take offthe blanket, which symbolizes her refusal to stopdrinking.
Are you in there?
Yes, I’m here.
Will you please come out from under that blanket?
Go leave me alone. Go on.
I’ll clean the house or do better in school if youstop.
To me the most devastating consequence ofgrowing up in an alcoholic home is it robs childrenof their childhood. I believe that in order to survivelittle children of alcoholics sell their soul, sell thatlittle kid inside, to survive and take on incredibleadult concerns, like is Mommy going to fall asleepin bed tonight with a lit cigarette. Am I going to takecare of my younger brothers and sisters to makesure that they have a lunch packed to go toschool? And as a result, they don’t get to play.
This is what a kid’s life should be like, thoughtLinda Hollingdale, a counselor on the campus of Saint Michael’s College in Winooski, Vermont. Shesaw young adults struggling, but it wasn’t until sheheard Claudia Black speak that she understood.These kids were already straining to look normalso no one would guess their secret.
We hear again of the more physical, blatant formsof abandonment. But we’re talking about what kidsdon’t get to hear. They don’t get to hear the I loveyou. They don’t get to hear that you are important.They don’t get the kind of time that implies that.
The other thing that happens with these kids, thatwe refer to as the walking wounded, that reallylook pretty good, is they’re often highlyperfectionistic.
Using Claudia Black exercises, these studentsare beginning to understand the repercussions ofgrowing up in an alcoholic home.
What these cards represent is basically what theysay. Anger can be any type of anger. Sadnesscan be loss, grief, any kind of sadness issues. I’dlike you to take cards that represent youremotional state and the number of cards you takewill indicate the intensity.
Do I take one of each?
Guilt’s really taking a beating. Here we go.
Sadness, guilt.
[INTERPOSING VOICES]
Now let’s start off with mine. This is as far back asI can remember. I just wanted to try to get as faraway from how I feel now. Happiness and fearwent hand in hand because I was always afraid oflosing my mother, like at 5 o’clock I’d lose her,when she started drinking. But I was very guiltybecause I thought it was my fault that theycouldn’t love me after 5 o’clock.
I never remember seeing drinking but I rememberdistinctly my mother being two different people.And I was always confused about why sometimesI was really loved and why sometimes I feltignored.
I always, always felt like there just was somethingthat I wasn’t doing right. Mainly I was never doingwhat I was doing to the highest level possible,which is what seemed to be what my parentsseemed to want. And I always felt guilty that I wasletting them down, letting myself down.
And I was always fearful that things were nevergoing to change and that I was always going tofeel the same way, and that I’d never feel happylike I felt everyone was always happy.
You know, as tough as it is to hear that pain, I findmyself envying kids who are aware of theirfeelings. When I was that age it seemed like theonly option was just to feel nothing. And the resultis I remember very little of that time. It would havehelped to have known that there are distinct rolesthat children in an alcoholic family take on.
There’s the hero, the over-achiever. They try todo everything right.
The scapegoat is the one that rebels. Theyprobably do drugs and they don’t do anythingright.
Then there’s the lost child. They just watcheverything quietly and blend into the woodwork,while the mascot provides the comic relief. Andnext we’re going to tell you a story about a manwho made that pain his profession.
Why is it that brothers and sisters from the samealcoholic home react differently? One reasoncould be they see different degrees of theirparents’ alcoholism. For instance, an older childmay leave before it becomes too bad and becomesuccessful, but they may pay later. In fact, somepeople believe that they may suffer somethingsimilar to post-traumatic stress syndrome, thesame delayed reaction that Vietnam veterans hadto leaving comrades on a battlefield.
The fact is, no matter how successful theybecome, it seems that no one gets off scot-free.
Try to get the car. That was a big deal, you knowthat. Hey, Dad? I cleaned the garage. I did thelawn. I built that addition. [LAUGHTER] Can I use the Bonneville? Take the Rambler.
Louie Anderson was the 10th of 11 children of analcoholic father. He was terrified as a child andused comedy as his escape.
And he’d give you those keys. He’d always giveyou a lecture with it. Now listen, I’m not giving youthis car so you can screw it up. Well then I don’twant it.
Yes. I use my dad. He’s a big part of my act.Probably 30 or 40 minutes of my three hours ofmaterial is about my dad. So I use that all the time.
I thought if I was a better kid that maybe hewouldn’t drink. He was the kind of father who wasan alcoholic so his love affair was not with hischildren or his wife, it was with alcoholism.
Well, he was never really physically abusive withme. He was emotionally abusive with me. Some ofmy older brothers and sisters say he wasphysically abusive with them. And I know that heused to hit my mom. I remember that.
Louie hated the way his father treated the family,but he also adored him. In many ways he was agreat guy. That combination of love and anger canbe crippling to adult children of alcoholics. They have to bury the. Feelings And like many, Louiedid that with food.
My dad would say when are you going to lose some weight, those kinds of things. And thosekinds of things are the things that really areproblems when you’re a kid. It wasn’t said for aresponse, it was said as a judgment. And thenwhen you would come into the room and thefather would look up at you and go, eh. Thosethings stay with you a long time. The eatingcomes from wanting to fill that emptiness that youfeel and also to calm and soothe everything, kindof a medication. So instead of alcoholism,because you are so repulsed by that idea, yourcompulsion becomes drugs, it becomes food,those kinds of things.
In fact, Louie first went to therapy for help with hisweight, only to find out there was a strongconnection between that and his father’salcoholism. He began to explore his feelings bywriting. Eventually these notes became Dear Dad,a book of letters to his late father.
Well, originally the book was not meant to be abook, first of all. It was a therapeutic tool formyself to get through these feelings.
Dear Dad, It’s been about a month since my lastletter.
Louie first read excerpts of his book to anunderstanding audience, the National Associationof Children of Alcoholics convention.
Parents influence their kids, pass on all theirbehavior in their children. I look at us and I see itas clear as I see you rolling those Bull Durhams inyour big easy chair. I tried to roll my own BullDurham one day. You weren’t home. I loved to sitin that chair and act like you. I’d pretend orderpeople around. Hey, cat, get over there. No slinking around the house.
At the end of the book I was able to leave a lot of the resentment behind.
Signed, Feeling the Loss. Thanks a lot.
No question about it, there are more eatingdisorders, more learning disabilities, there’s moreviolence and more sexual abuse in homes wherealcohol is abused. Women stand a greater chanceof marrying an alcoholic and men stand a greaterchance of becoming one if their raised in thatenvironment. But the child that’s dealt the worstblow is the one whose mother drinks during thepregnancy.
Push. Good job. Again. Bear down–
This is a normal healthy birth.
It’s a her. You were right.
Children born to mothers who are alcoholics anddrink throughout their pregnancy begin life withmany strikes already against them.
For a child to be diagnosed as having fetal alcoholsyndrome, they have signs in each of threeareas. They are growth retarded. Both at birth andas they grow, they stay small. They have centralnervous system abnormalities. In the most severecases, the face is more characteristic and youreally can see the differences. In the less severecases the face will look more normal.
But both parents affect a child’s genetic makeup.And in fact, just recently scientists isolated a genethat confirms what many already suspected.Alcoholism can be inherited.
So when you put the genetics together and thenyou put being raised in a dysfunctional familytogether, we’re increasing the probabilities. And sochildren of alcoholics are four times more likely todevelop alcoholism. We know that that’sstatistically, empirically proved.
I believe my father’s alcoholic. And I love him dearly. And I can’t get him sober. And he thinkshe’s just a boozer. And I would love for him totaste sobriety.
I talk to my dad all the time about it. I tell him, I gota bed for you, Harold. Yeah, but I’m just a boozer.Nah, I’m okay. Dad, get sober. You’d enjoy life somuch at your age. Nah. And he tries. He sees it.But it’s the most natural thing in the world for a drunk to drink. And he justifies it and rationalizesits use. I don’t think he’d appreciate me talkingabout it.
When I went to rehab they wanted me to say I hated my parents, that my parents areresponsible for me being alcoholic. I havetremendous difficulty with that. I chose to pick up,nobody put a gun to my head and said become adrunk.
As we’ve heard, genetics can be a loaded gun ifyou don’t understand the connection. As a child ofan alcoholic, Derek was at birth already four timesmore likely to become one himself. But he didn’tthink about that when he was the heavy drinkingstar of the Bruins. No one did.
So I would drink until 3:00, 4:00 in the morning,play a 1 o’clock game the next day. I figuredbecause I passed out for a few hours and had ashower I was fine. I didn’t realize that I wasplaying drunk.
But eventually the drinks and the drugs began toshow, even in a televised interview.
Here’s the key. Meet me in the room.
Derek’s downward spiral was swift and hard. Hehad it all, he lost it all.
And you think that’s normal behavior. Athletes,everybody goes for a few beers. I was sleepingunder bridges in Central Park, totally broke andstill didn’t realize alcohol was my problem. Ithought the world was against me.
I was carrying a gun. I was in blackouts a lot. If Iheld anybody up, I don’t remember. But I was inblackouts at the end sometimes up to a week.Functioning, but still blacked out, which isdangerous. And I know I had a weapon. And Iknow it was empty sometimes and I had to reload it, but I don’t know where I shot it.
Eventually his teammate and friend Bobby Orrintervened and took Derek to the first of 13 detoxcenters.
He’s getting himself caught. He’s taking chances.
Derek’s been sober now for eight years. He doesplay-by-play for hockey games and he talks tokids about the effects of drinking on his life. Onething he doesn’t talk about is his own dad’sdrinking.
I can personally dispel a lot of ACOA theories. Iwas never hit. I was never abused. I was loved,cared for, and it was a very concerned, giving,loving family organism. It was something that wasjust perfect.
This may be a good time to stop and point out thatthis is not about blame, sitting around and listing allthe things that your parents did to you. This isabout trying to understand their drinking so thatyou can take responsibility for your own behavior.But it’s true. The family member that stands upand is the first one to say, there’s somethingwrong here, can feel very disloyal.
Lorian Hemingway– Yes, she’s thegranddaughter of the famous American writerErnest Hemingway– lives a quiet life here inSeattle, Washington. She comes from generationsof destructive alcoholic behavior thatmasqueraded as eccentric family fun. In fact, ithad become so acceptable that when Loriandecided to halt the cycle and declare heralcoholism to her 17 year old daughter, she wasmet with disbelief.
When I told her I was alcoholic, she said, I don’tbelieve you. I explained the sort of drinker I was. It was easy for people to see me on the outside andthink that things were going OK. The last yearthings just went dramatically downhill.
The thing that is ironic about having that sort ofhistory is seeing your own mother go through it,and say to yourself, I will never, ever do that withmy life. And then ending up, when you’re 35 yearsold, worse than she was at that age, near thepoint of death. And seeing that you did indeed dothat. That’s a little frightening.
The drinking history of Lorian Hemingway’s familyis really quite staggering. Her grandfather, ErnestHemingway, one of America’s finest writers, wasalso one of its most famous drinkers. Several ofhis children would become alcoholics. Lorian’sfather, his son, and Lorian’s mother were bothalcoholics, so was her famous cousin MargauxHemingway. Drinking was a family sport.
1980 is when it started kicking off in– I don’t want to use the word earnest– in full force. That wasnot as bad as years down the road, no. That waswhen my family was still having fun. Lorian candrink anybody under the table. Why don’t we haveher participate in the contest? It was well knownfact that I drank a lot. And a lot of people said, youdrink because you’re a Hemingway.
Lorian wanted to follow in her grandfather’sfootsteps. Like him, she became a writer, in factwriting many articles about him. And like him, shetook up fishing. And again like him, she took upheavy drinking.
That sort of passion and that connection to himgrew at a particular point in my life, probablyduring my mid-20s, when I tried to be the femalepersonification of my grandfather. Sheer idiocy,looking back on it now, but I think it was probablysomething that I had to go through.
Lorian got help, got sober, and in August of 1989wrote an article for Washington Magazine. In it,she describes coming face to face with her ownalcoholism, how her mother ended up in aninstitution because of the disease, it’s devastatingeffect on the rest of her family, and her pain athaving survived.
It saddens me that my grandfather ended up asuicide and that my uncle ended up a suicide, thatmy mother is where she is. It’s a gift that I wish Icould give them, this knowledge that you cansurvive past it. And that there is hope. But there isnothing I can do about that.
Hollywood Henderson, once a powerful linebackerfor the Dallas Cowboys, was brought to his kneesby drinks and drugs. It was only after his careerdreams were totally shattered that he began tolook for the roots of his drinking.
I don’t know. My mother or father, being regulardrinkers, probably gave me a sip of beer at anage before I knew what it was.
Like a sip of Coca-Cola?
Yeah. Alcoholics do that to their children, youknow. They give them a sip. They do.
For his new sober lifestyle he’s taken back his oldname, Thomas. He’s also reaching into the pastfor painful memories of traumatic events that werethe result of his parents drinking.
But at 12 years old I witnessed, on the front porchof my house, my mother shooting my father. Hewas my stepdad. And he had physically abused her earlier that evening.
Thomas Henderson will tell you now that hismemories help him to understand his parents, notto blame them. But that wasn’t true when he firstbegan to write about them in his book called Outof Control.
When I first started to write the book it was goingto be a tell-all on everybody but me. And thensomething happened to me in my recovery.
Thomas Henderson got help at Sierra Tucson, atreatment center in Arizona.
When you’re sober for five and a half years,sometimes you think you got it all together. But ifyou haven’t dealt with the family of origin issues orbeing an adult child of alcoholics, then a lot ofthings are still not clear and you still may act out incertain areas.
So I went in to Sierra Tucson and what happenedwas I was crying for three and a half days, anddid some work on my mother and my father. Letgo of some shame and some guilt.
I was so angry. There’s no way that I could comefrom a family like I did and have the tools that ittakes to raise children.
[? Kathy ?] [? Higby ?] was as devastated asThomas Henderson but for a different reason.She thought she’d done everything right, that shehad outsmarted her past, that she, and thereforeher children, had escaped the horriblydisappointing alcoholism that [? Kathy ?] grew up with.
Both my parents are alcoholics. My father died atage 49. I don’t really remember seeing my fatherdrunk, but later I realized I never saw my fathersober. Never. And my mother, when she drank,the effects were much more apparent physicallywith her. She was the one that was supposed tobe OK, and when she started drinking that wasreal hard on me.
Rigid control would become her escape route, andthe whole family felt the pressure to be perfect.She was unconsciously trying to do as an adultwhat she couldn’t do as a child: fix her parents.
Me as a child decided that I better get in control ofthings because nobody else was going to do it for me.
She became a social worker in Warwick, RhodeIsland, married a family practitioner, had threebeautiful daughters and a lovely home. But oneday her tightly controlled world collapsed. A son,born prematurely, died.
And that made me stop and say I can’t do thisanymore. I no longer had control.
It was that experience that made Kathy seek helpfrom Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse.
But there’s no room for the good things to happenwhen there is a reservoir of toxic anger inside.Anger has to come out. Shame has to come out.Guilt has to come out. Hopelessness has to comeout and leave that person feeling void of all ofthose pent up years of feelings. That’s when thepositive healing feelings can begin to begenerated.
How are you feeling right now?
A little nervous.
A little scared?
That’s normal.
Now Kathy and her husband Ray lead workshopstogether for children of alcoholics. Usingsomething called Family Sculptures, therapygroup members play the roles of people in theindividual’s alcoholic family.
Say, you are an alcoholic, because he is nowyour father.
You are an alcoholic. You are very abusive,mentally and physically.
You. I don’t know where your sense is at all. I should beat some in you, for God’s sake what’sthe matter with you?
What are you feeling?
I feel like did then.
What is that?
I’m feeling worthless, like I’m no good. And feelingalone.
The next step is to try to release all that hurt andanger that’s been kept inside.
No more.
You never listen. Never listen.
No more.
You’ve got to listen. Why don’t you listen to me?You know I know more than you do.
No.
You know I know more than you.
No.
I’m a better person than you.
Now comes the hard part. As tough as it is to admit that a parent is an alcoholic, it’s devastatingfor the child to realize they have to change. I guess the old saying is true: the devil you know isbetter than the devil you don’t know. And it’s scaryto express emotions like anger. That can be verydangerous if you were growing up in an alcoholichome.
Someone just said to me recently, how are yougoing to do this show? Don’t you still get angry?Don’t you just lose it? Of course I do. And I havefound a safe and appropriate place to put thosefeelings. Next we’ll talk about getting support.
I remember the first time I ever went to a supportgroup. You see, every day thousands of peoplewho have been affected by other people’s drinkingget together in rooms across the country to talk. Iwent to my first meeting, I remember I literallylooked at my watch and said, oh, I have about anhour, let’s just get this thing fixed, shall we? Howhard could it be? I didn’t have a drinking problem. I didn’t have a problem with drugs. I was just goingto fix this thing. And I figured one, maybe twomeetings at best.
Three years later I am still attending meetings. I’vebeen astonished at how hard it is to changenegative thoughts about yourself. I’m convincedthat it’s as hard for a child of an alcoholic to dothat as it must be for a heroin addict to kick theirhabit. There are now 4,000 groups across thecountry which are just for adult children ofalcoholics. You’d be amazed at who you’d findthere.
I wanted to somehow make it better. I wanted tomake him feel better. I wanted to make therelationship between my mom and dad better. I wanted to make it OK. And I thought, well, if Iclean the kitchen or cook dinner or I’m very quiet–
You may know Susan Sullivan for her starring roleon Falcon Crest for seven years. But Susannever trusted that success. What seemed likemodesty was actually a grim resignation. Shebelieved anything good was going to vanish.
What kind of a man was he and what kind of a drinker was he.
He was a really sort of Jekyll/Hyde personality.When he wasn’t drinking he was charming andbright and insightful. And when he was drinking hewas angry. He was just so angry and he wasvery verbally abusive. I could tell by the way hewalked which dad was coming home and whetherI could run out and greet him or whether I shouldhang back a little.
My father was very critical. I always felt that I wasnever quite enough and that what I was doing wasnot enough.
What would he say?
Oh, I remember when he would talk about what Iwas doing as an actress. It was always, well, yes,you’re doing that and that’s OK. But I rememberwhen I saw Katharine Cornell. So the unspoken,or not so unspoken, was well, you’re doing all rightbut you’re not Katharine Cornell.
That’s a very cruel–
He said, well, because I thought you needed tohave that kind of encouragement. I thought that’swhat you needed in order so that you wouldn’tglide across the top. And I have felt and strugglewith to this day that I glide across the top. And thereal challenge for me now is to be able to go indeeply into anything, into a relationship, into mywork, into new work and new ventures, withoutfeeling this terrible sense that I’m not going to beenough.
Children of alcoholics do judge themselves withoutmercy, turn criticism in on themselves, oftensabotage their own success, whether or notthey’re celebrities.
Sometimes I will feel this sort of free floating ennui,this sort of depression, and it’s real hard, becausemy mom will say things like, oh, honey, why areyou depressed? Look, you have a beautifulhouse, you have a wonderful man, you havemoney in the bank, why are you depressed? Andthen you feel, why am I depressed? How dare Ibe depressed. But you are.
My struggle now has been to learn how to grieve,to learn how to grieve for the things that were notand that will never be, and then basically to takecare of myself.
Susan realized that her late father’s acceptancewas not only impossible to get, it wasn’t even thebiggest problem anymore. She joined a supportgroup to begin accepting herself.
That part of myself that’s a little more frightenedand suffers from not being in control and maybebeing stupid and all of that stuff, that part I don’tlike to let her out. I try to take her out more and Itry to dress her properly. She gets out she has ahole in her sock, her shoe is worn down, she isjust impossible. But it’s OK. She was the other daywithout any underpants on in the car with me. Ilooked over, I said, little Sue, I’m going to takeyou– No, it’s all right.
So the way I understand, you haven’t just sort ofsuddenly split into dual personalities here. This isyour image of you as a child, little Sue. And theone that’s still with you, even though you look justgreat and you’re big Sue now.
I’m big Sue. And I have my pants on.
You see, we do have a sense of humor and weneed it. Asking for help is one of the toughestthings that an adult child of an alcoholic will everdo. But Janet Woititz advises that you not try to goalone.
You see, the recovery begins when you get itoutside of yourself, when you put it out there. Andyou put it out there by saying it to a therapist,putting it down on paper, talking to another personwhom you select very carefully. It should not beyour boss. It should not be somebody on the firstdate. It might be somebody that you meet at ameeting. If you own up to this and you make thedecision to go into recovery, on the one hand it willbe wonderful. On the other hand it has some implied threats, because you’re going to be anoutsider in terms of your family.
A warning: there are now so many books on thissubject it’s hard to know where to begin. But beginby trusting your instincts. Find the one that feelsright for you.
Adult children have a wound inside and I refer to itas an emotional abscess. And it’s just like aphysical abscess. And we need to go in, drain it.And we drain it by talking about it, crying the tearsthat have to be cried, releasing the anger that hasto be released, so that some of the new feelings,like serenity and gratitude and hope and joy canbegin to happen. And as that happens and thecompulsions are eliminated, obviouslyrelationships begin to work out in a whole differentway.
Very, very treatable. Does not have to go onforever.
My younger brother Jimmy once told me that he’dwatched a television show much like this one. Hebegan by thinking, this is sort of interesting.Halfway through he literally got up, crossed theroom, and sat down in another chair, thinking, thisis me.
Well, there’s a chance that someone tonight hashad that same kind of light bulb go off. And if youhave, we have some thoughts for you.
First of all, it’s never too late. One of theprofessionals we met tonight told me she has an86 year old client who is just now figuring out thatshe grew up in an alcoholic home. And what’smore, she plans on doing something about it.
It’s also never your fault if a parent drinks.
And finally, you are never alone.
I’m Robin Young. Good night.
Films Media Group (1990). Walking wounded: Young ACOA. Adult Children of Alcoholics: A Family Secret, na.

Discuss the biological, developmental, and environmental factors that relate to the criminal behavior.

Assignment 2: LASA 1—Case Study of a Criminal Offender

In this assignment, you will develop a case study for a well-known criminal offender. Begin by selecting one criminal offender from the following high-profile individuals:

  • Susan Smith
  • Jeffrey Dahmer
  • Aileen Wournos
  • Kip Kinkel
  • Bernie Madoff
  • Charles Manson

Research your selected case and complete the following:

  • Describe the charges against the individual.
  • Discuss the biological, developmental, and environmental factors that relate to the criminal behavior.
  • Discuss the theories that could be applied to explain their actions.
  • Analyze whether mental illness, substance abuse/dependence, or psychopathy factors contributed to the criminal action(s).
  • Describe your reaction to the court verdict and if you agree or disagree with the final disposition. If you agree, make sure that you thoroughly defend that position. If you do not agree, include what you believe would be the appropriate verdict and use appropriate reasoning.

Remember to provide examples from the offender’s history, referring to course materials as well as a minimum of five external sources. For example, journal articles, books, credible Web sites, and newspaper articles may be used to support your explanation. Your external sources must include at least two peer-reviewed journal articles.

Write a 3–5-pages paper in Word format. Apply APA standards to citation of sources. Be sure to include a tile page and reference page in APA format. Use the following file naming convention:

Identify the changes that should be made to the backup procedures in order to address the problem with the server backups.

 

You are an administrator for the Contoso Corporation. The Contoso Corporation has two (2) large sites. The corporate office is in New York and the manufacturing site is in Cleveland, Ohio. In addition, the Contoso Corporation has five (5) smaller sites.

 

 

 

At the Corporate site, you currently have eight (8) physical Hyper-V hosts that host approximately one hundred twenty (120) virtual machines. The virtual machines are running Windows Server 2008 R2 and Windows Server 2012. The servers are needed to host email, various databases, file services, print services, and a point-of sales-application. The virtual machines are stored on a centrally located storage area network (SAN) that has multiple power supplies, and use redundant array of independent disks (RAID).

 

 

 

Over the last three (3) years, you have had two (2) power failures that caused the servers to go down at the corporate office. Recently, during one (1) of these incidents, files on one (1) of the servers were corrupted. It was later discovered that the backup could only partially restore the data files, but could not restore the server itself.

 

 

 

The servers must remain available and reliable. As the administrator, you must ensure that you can recover from a failure or problem quickly with minimum loss.

 

 

 

Write a three to five (3-5) page paper in which you:

 

  1. Develop a continuity plan / disaster recovery plan for Contoso Corporation in which you address the following:
    1. Suggest an approach that provides redundancy (failover) for all mission critical functions in the event of a disaster including power failure. Consider the following in your approach: Essential Infrastructure; Email; Database; File Services; Print Services; Point-of-Sale Applications; Power Redundancy Solutions.
    2. Identify the changes that should be made to the backup procedures in order to address the problem with the server backups.
    3. Outline the necessary actions that Server Administrators must verify for proper operation of servers in the event of a failover.
    4. Provide a plan for returning all services back to the primary systems once the crisis has passed.
    5. Examine the pros and cons of moving part of the data center to the Cleveland office and housing it there on a permanent basis. Provide your recommendation for the stated action.

 

 

 

Your assignment must follow these formatting requirements:

 

  • Be typed, double spaced, using Times New Roman font (size 12), with one-inch margins on all sides; citations and references must follow APA or school-specific format. Check with your professor for any additional instructions.
  • Include a cover page containing the title of the assignment, the student’s name, the professor’s name, the course title, and the date. The cover page and the reference page are not included in the required assignment page length.

 

 

 

The specific course learning outcomes associated with this assignment are:

 

  • Demonstrate the ability to describe, manage, and configure load balancing and failover clustering.
  • Demonstrate the ability to configure and manage backups to include role-specific and online or cloud environments.
  • Demonstrate the ability to recover servers to include files and volumes.
  • Use technology and information resources to research issues in advanced network infrastructure environments.
  • Write clearly and concisely about advanced network infrastructure topics using proper writing mechanics and technical style conventions.

 

What is missing in the performance management process and what ways would improve the performance management process help improve discipline and morale at Modern Office Supply?

Growing Pains at Modern Office Supply” (pages 270-272 in the text).

After reading the case annotated above, answer the following questions as noted on page 272 of the text:

  1. What is missing in the performance management process and what ways would improve the performance management process help improve discipline and morale at Modern Office Supply?
  2. How can ineffective performance management programs leave employers vulnerable for claims of discrimination?
  3. How does the form used for hourly employees contribute to errors and distortion in the appraisal process? How would you revise the form or reduce them? Explain other steps that need to be taken to further reduce distortions in the process?
  4. What type of form would you recommend that would be more effective for the hourly employees? Construct an appropriate form for the delivery driver position
  5. How can the appraisal process for the manager be improved?

 

There are no “right” or “wrong” answers, only well-substantiated opinions based on critical analysis.

The requirements below must be met for your paper to be accepted and graded:

  • Write between 750 – 1,250 words (approximately 3 – 5 pages) using Microsoft Word in APA style, see example below (Note: Please number/separate each response to the questions above)
  • Use font size 12 and 1” margins.
  • Include cover page and reference page.
  • At least 80% of your paper must be original content/writing.
  • No more than 20% of your content/information may come from references.
  • Use at least three references from outside the course material, one reference must be from EBSCOhost. Text book, lectures, and other materials in the course may be used, but are not counted toward the three reference requirement.
  • Cite all reference material (data, dates, graphs, quotes, paraphrased words, values, etc.) in the paper and list on a reference page in APA style.

References must come from sources such as, scholarly journals found in EBSCOhost, CNN, online newspapers such as, The Wall Street Journal, government websites, etc. Sources such as, Wikis, Yahoo Answers, eHow, blogs, etc. are not acceptable for academic writing.